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I had an amazing experience recently.  I went to a Rapport, Power of Communications, Leadership class.  This is the second course I have taken and I love it!  I highly recommend it to everyone.  It is not cheap… but the experience is priceless.

Since this course was all about learning to be a better communicator in your personal and professional life, it was recommended that we bring our spouse.  Since you all know that the only person I am “married” to is gay… I took my gay husband..  I figured that counted.  And we have probably been together longer than most of the straight people anyway…

To give you a little background on my gay husband, he is like an unknown celebrity.  I swear, he knows someone where ever we go.  The first night we are there we had to meet the others in the meeting room for dinner.  (all the training was at the Hotel Valley Ho in Scottsdale, AZ which I highly recommend!  The gays would totally love this 60’s, contemporary infusion style) 

Back to the story…  we walk in for dinner and right away he sees someone in the training that is there from LA.  I am thinking to myself, “go figure!”  The funny thing is that that guy (with his fiancé) thought he knew that my best friend is gay.  We decided that it would be funny to let him wonder what was going on the entire weekend.  Ahhh..the little things that keep us entertained. 

Finally the last day, my best friend told him that we are not really a couple and that he is gay.  The guy from LA sighed with relief and told him that he thought he was gay because when they used to work together years before, my friend would watch as he changed clothes…lol!

Back to the whole reason for this blog.  I wanted to share a couple key things I learned.  The first is that there are three steps to an apology.  Who knew, right?  The first is saying you are sorry.  The second is asking how to make it right.  And the third and most important is to then make it right.  Most people can spit out an apology but few actually follow through on making sure that things are made right.  That is really the key, isn’t it?

If someone is truly sorry, then they must make it right.  Only then can you both move on and let it go.  So, next  time you need to say you’re sorry…no matter how big or small the issue, remember these 3 steps and make it right~

Another great thing I learned was How to live your life by the “Four Agreements” .  These are four agreements that you make to yourself.  As you read them you may think they are simple.  And, yes, they are.  They are simple…but not always easy.  Think about them and apply them to your life everyday.  Imagine if we all lived this way…what a better place our world would be.  Everything starts within us.

1. Be impeccable with your word.   – Always take responsibility for your actions. 
2. Don’t take anything personally. – Ask yourself, do you agree with what was said.  Don’t give others so much power.
3. Don’t make assumptions. – Seek to understand, instead of judging
4. Always do your best. – This is the key to the other three.  Never strive to be perfect.  Always strive to do your best.
   

Another great bit of advice is to realize that nothing in this world has any meaning, until we, ourselves, give it a meaning.  Changing the meaning you put on things can help you through a lot of different situations.  But mainly it is about living your life with good intentions.  If you strive to do the right thing in every aspect of your life, all that good energy you are putting out into the universe will come back to you.

I hope this has inspired you!  I will leave you with a quote by Emile Zola, “If you asked me what I came into this world to do, I will tell you; I came to live out loud.”

Pay it forward!
Cheers, Fruit Fly

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